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Does Size Really Matter?

Updated: Nov 1, 2023

The age old question that many people ask about heterosexual intercourse is;

Does size really matter?

The short answer is NO.

Size really doesn't matter as much as you might think it does. Keep reading to find out why.

woman with lingam model on chest

Reason #1

The Clitoris is the pleasure center of a yoni owner's body, NOT their vagina.

Note: for most women, direct stimulation of the clitoris can be uncomfortable and even painful. Try massaging the hood of the clitoris in small circles with medium pressure. And don't forget to communicate with your partner.

FUN FACT: the Clitoris is the ONLY part of the human body (male and female anatomy) that's sole purpose is PLEASURE. It literally has no other purpose, role or function in the body.

Reason #2

There are at least 15 different types of Yoni Orgasms. However, majority of these can be achieved WITHOUT any vaginal penetration or stimulation.

Reason #3

It's NOT what you have, but HOW you use it. Different positions help to stimulate various erogenous zones. Always communicate with your partner about what feels good for both of you.

Reason #4

FOREPLAY! And a lot of it!

On average it takes 25-45 minutes for a yoni owner to get FULLY engorged.

Foreplay stimulates vaginal lubrication which is key for penetration, sexual pleasure and orgasm. Some forms of foreplay, such as a massage or yoni yoga, can even stimulate blood flow causing a woman to become aroused even quicker.

Note: Women are not 'wet' 24/7. Which is why foreplay is so important. Make sure you take the time to get your partner there naturally and always use an organic lubricant such as coconut oil before inserting anything into the vagina and/or anus.

Reason #5

The average vagina (unaroused) is between 3 - 5 inches in length. A vagina can grow up to 2x it's normal size when aroused (fully engorged). Anything past that can potentially harm your partner and possibly cause damage to the cervix. On the flip side, the average lingam owner is between 4 -6 inches in length. So do the math. What's even more awesome is that the vagina can be stretched AND/OR tightened through pelvic floor toning exercises. You can literally customize your yoni to fit your partner. So cool!

Note: The size of a yoni owner's vagina depends on various factors including age, weight, whether or not they have gone through menopause or given birth, and even some surgeries involving the pelvic cavity can shorten the overall length.

So, if size really doesn't matter than what does?

Education, Awareness, Sensation and Communication. The most common blocks to sexual bliss are a lack of Education, Awareness, and Sensation. Communication should also be regularly practiced as a means to address these blocks.

Educate yourself about your own body AND your partner's body. Understanding sexual anatomy and how to use it for pleasure should be your starting point.

Practice mindfulness exercises like meditation to cultivate Awareness of you and your partner's arousal process, to remain present during sexual intimacy. Focused awareness also allows us to learn how to relax into pleasure and not contract the body at certain points of pleasure.

Observing how you or your partner's body responds, or doesn't respond, to Sensation is a key indicator of trauma that has been stored in the body (specifically the sex organs). Negative experiences can be stored in the body on a physical, emotional, and energetic level; thus preventing us from experiencing the fullness of our sexual potential.

Utilizing the 5 Elements of Sexual Communication before, during, and after sexual intimacy are vital for consensual intercourse.

#Allsexmatters but not all sex is equal, so I challenge you to explore and always remember that Safe Sex is the Best Sex.

updated: October 30, 2023

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